7 Tips to be unbothered
When Unwelcome Opinions Get You Down, Stay Unbothered
November 14, 2024
Hi friends! As a Christian Life and Wellness coach, I see so many people that struggle with letting go of unwanted criticism and unwelcome opinions.
How a person treats you says more about them than it does about you?
Knowing this, you can shake off the judgements or the unwelcome opinions that leave you feeling not enough, unworthy, or less than.
Follow 7 simple tips to being unbothered:
1. Set Boundaries – What do YOU need to protect your peace?
Identify your needs and put guardrails up to protect them. Boundaries are not meant to control another person, a healthy boundary is what you will do when someone or something breaches your limitations. Boundaries must be clear, reasonable, and enforced in order to be effective.
2. Don’t mind read – We have no business trying to figure out someone’s thoughts, so don’t assume. (You’ll probably be wrong anyway).
Stick with the facts and try not to feed your imagination. Old wounds of rejection, failure, or abandonment can show up in ways that cause us to ruminate and over think otherwise benign interactions.
3. Let God Define Your Worth – Rely on what God says about you, not other people (Hint: Psalm 139:14)
God says you are perfectly and wonderfully made with a plan and a purpose. Stick to the truth of God’s word when it comes to knowing your worth. The world doesn’t measure your worth, that’s between you and God.
4. Trust Yourself – Trust that you know what you need to feel safe, loved, and valued and honor that (refer to step 1)
5. Consider the source – Does this person have any say over your worth? (Spoiler alert – No, they don’t!).
What credibility does this person have to warrant a critical judgement on your life. We rely on close, trusted family and friends to speak life over us, when it comes down to it – negative, unwanted feedback is counterproductive to living a confident and encouraged life of self worth.
6. Stay on your side of the street – you are not responsible for other people’s emotions, only yours.
Focus on what is within your control – your emotions, your behavior, and your thoughts. Carrying the responsibility of other people’s behavior and emotions is unsustainable, ineffective, and quickly leads to burnout.
7. Prayer/Mindfulness – Go to God first to let go of expectations and learn how He sees you.
A few minutes of prayer a day will keep the chaos away! Commit to spending the first 5 minutes when you wake up in thankful prayer and meditation to arm yourself.
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